I Wrote This Book Because I Love You

December 1, 2017
A noted cartoonist and essayist returns with another collection of profoundly personal essays.A number of themes and motifs glide through the gleaming streams of Kreider's (We Learn Nothing, 2012, etc.) writing. He writes continually about his relationships with women, all of which have broken (though some amiably so), and he notes that he has never been married or even lived with a woman. We also hear about the cat he's had for nearly 20 years; the author wryly notes that this relationship has lasted the longest of his adult life. Throughout, Kreider, the creator of the popular comic strip "The Pain--When Will It End?," deploys an extremely self-deprecating tone, which comes across as appealing and humorous and, sometimes, laugh-out-loud funny. He identifies himself as an atheist, but he also says that belief is "softening" now. He also writes affectingly about time, observing that the past is really just a story we continually revise. Though most of the pieces--previously published in other forms--are brief, there are a couple of longer ones, including one about "attachment theory," a topic that increased in interest for him when he learned that as an infant he'd been involved in a key psychological study on the topic. His liberal political views are evident, particularly so in "Our War on Terror," an essay that gently interweaves his observations about current events with an account of another imploding relationship with a woman. Literary and cultural allusions pop up throughout the collection: Albee, Gilgamesh, Maslow, Freud, Montaigne, Descartes, and others. Kreider can also be informal/nontraditional in his language, and the pieces are piercingly, painfully reflective: for example, he discusses his college teaching experiences and how he dealt with his sexual attractions to his students.An artful example of how the deeply personal can also be the broadly general.

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January 8, 2018
Essayist and cartoonist Kreider (We Learn Nothing) returns with another incisive and cutting collection of essays, this time loosely focused on the women in his life. Over the course of the book, he recounts a trip with a close friend aboard a circus train bound for Mexico, a whirlwind affair with a sex worker, and the surreal experience of falling in love with a married friend in the weeks following the 9/11 terrorist attacks. This collection is noteworthy not so much for the insights into dating or women, but rather for Kreider’s humane outlook coupled with his often-wry sense of humor: he has rules about which living things he can kill (fruit flies, yes; spiders, no) and makes the dry admission of being a “cat guy.” Kreider’s clever hand and philosophic—rather than solipsistic—viewpoint place him in a different realm than writers like David Sedaris and David Foster Wallace who share his affection for details, uncommon settings, and nuance.

January 1, 2018
According to New York Times essayist and cartoonist Kreider, his intention in writing this book of essays is to apologize to all the women he ever loved. Love has come to him in many forms: a free spirit who traveled on a circus train, teaching performers' children; a prostitute; a married friend; two women at once; an entire class of college students; a minister; and his 19-year-old cat. He admits to being unable to forge permanent attachments, yet some of his friendships have gone on for years. Kreider is a little hard on his younger self. A talented writer, he is not afraid to share his missteps while depicting feelings and situations from years past with crisp detail, making them come alive. He can laugh at himself, and some of his predicaments are truly comic. He's also fearless when it comes to analyzing relationships and mulling over things like fidelity, polygamy, the existence of God, and loving a cat. His essays are beautifully written, with just enough humor to balance his spikiness, and will please lovers of fine writing.(Reprinted with permission of Booklist, copyright 2018, American Library Association.)